People are surprised when l say l am a Civil Celebrant. Celebrants aren’t usually a Thirty Something women with small children. Which is great! I’m glad l don’t fit in ‘the box’ and that l am a different option for people to consider for their wedding day or special celebration.
Around the time l was getting married we seemed to go to heaps of weddings – l think it was a ‘buy a white car suddenly see white cars everywhere’ scenario. The one thing that always stood out was the Officiate. Over time, the details of the good Celebrants blended in with my general feelings about the ceremony. Whereas the not so good Celebrants seemed to be the only thing l could remember about the whole day. One mumbled, one had his back to us the whole time, one spoke REALLY LOUD, one talked to the guests (and the couple) like we were pre-schoolers – the list goes on.
Friends and family suggested that l should become a Celebrant (or quit whinging!).... and so l did. Even at the time l didn’t realise what an ideal use of my skills it would be. I love meeting new people, l get a buzz from public speaking and running my own business fits in perfectly with three kids to chase around at home.
After five years even l am surprised at how different every single ceremony is.
I am not an ‘insert name here’ sort of Celebrant. I enjoy sitting down with my couples and families to hear their story and ensure the ceremony matches their personality and reflects them. After all, it’s their day. For many people, it is the only time in their life that they stand in front of a crowd and declare their love. It needs to be their words, their feelings and their way. If that means seriousness, romance, humour or all three then so be it.
This attitude towards the ceremony always intrigues couples l meet, particularly in country areas. In the city there are thousands of Celebrants – which is wonderful because you can choose a Celebrant who suits you. In country areas the choice is not as wide which is why l am happy to travel and give people another option.
My aim is for every ceremony is to be as memorable as the table decorations at the reception. That is, unless l am mind blowingly awesome, l should not be ‘the thing’ people remember at a wedding. I want them to remember how they felt and whether they laughed and cried. I want the looks, the smiles, the tears and the words of the bride and groom to be what every guest recalls for years to come.
That is why l am Amber the Celebrant.
Please contact me if l can be an option for your special day.