There we hit a snag....I thought it looked silly. The wedding ring and engagement ring just didn't work together. I thought, I wonder if I can cut the ring in half and have two rings, so they will sit one on each side of the engagement ring. The jeweller said l could do whatever l wanted, so that’s what we did. Now I have two wedding rings.
Generally both partners exchange wedding rings during their wedding ceremony. Often one of three things is said
- Will you wear this ring? A question, like when you got engaged.
- Wear this ring. A statement, given that the rings usually follow the vows, at this stage they have already said ‘yes’
- Someone else (aka Celebrant) says ‘wear these rings’
Wedding rings are usually described as representing the endless of true love, having no beginning and no end.
Most people in Australia wear it on the fourth digit on the left hand. In ancient times it was thought that a vein ran directly from this finger to the heart.
Sometimes one partner doesn’t want a ring, which is fine. You can still have a ring ceremony and you may even find there is something else that person would prefer. It has really only been in the last 100 years that both partners have worn wedding rings, thanks to marketing.
Some people don’t wear or like jewellery or it doesn’t suit their profession. A good thing to remember is that you won’t always have the job you currently have. If you are a plumber and worried you might lose it down a drain, it can just be worn for special occasions or in 50 years time when you retire. You’ll still be married then.
Whilst wedding rings hold thousands of years of tradition, if they are meaningless to you – don’t make them part of your day. It’s your wedding and you really should have only the symbols that you find important.
Beautiful wedding rings often come with large price tags. You might find that at this stage in your life that money might be better spent on a holiday, house deposit or the wedding.
If you still want to exchange something; what about a necklace, watch or even get matching tattoos.
If it means something to you – then great; l know an awesome jeweller.
If a wedding ring is not for you – then let’s chat about what you do want in your wedding ceremony, because guess what ... you too can do whatever you want!