I get quite invested in my couples big day, some say I shouldn't, but it breaks my heart when someone's wedding is marred by a supplier not doing the job they were hired for. I have been to so many weddings and along the way I have learnt a lot about planning this special occasion. It is all about assembling a team of professionals around you that will show up and work for you.
Here are a few tips to help you to gather the suppliers that will help you to have the celebration you want:
Where did you find them?
A great way to find the best suppliers is to ask people you know and trust. If someone has had a celebration recently and loved their supplier find out who it was. Knowing the service and quality you receive before contacting a supplier gives you a starting point. For example, l am part of an awesome group of local wedding businesses and because l know them all personally, when l refer them to my couples l know exactly the high level of service they will receive.
Have you met them?
Researching and googling a business is one thing, but meeting them in person is so important. Businesses can and do write whatever they like on their website. Meeting a supplier in person can put a face to a voice/email but also helps you decide if they are the right person to be helping you with your day.
Did they impress you?
If the supplier turned up late, are forgetful or they wont take the time to meet you, then chances are you don't want them working for you.
Do they do what you need done?
Everyone wants something different for their wedding so finding the supplier that can provide your preference is important. If you want glamorous wedding photos, you will need a different photographer than if you just want 100 photos on a usb. If you want a personalised ceremony, you will need a different celebrant than one that is happy to just insert your name into their script.
I’ve booked them, what now?
After you have booked your supplier, don't feel bad if you want to ask lots of questions and being clear that your needs will be met. Get everything in writing so that there is no confusion on what is included and agreed on. Find out the timings of the task they are completing. For example, if your guests will be arriving at 6pm, confirm that the DJ needs to be set up by this time and find out how long their set up takes.
Touching base with your supplier regularly is a great way to ensure everything is on track. This could be as simple as following their Facebook page. Nothing would be more stressful than in the weeks, days or hours before your wedding discovering they are no longer in business or can’t be contacted.
Marriage is a choice we make every day.
A wedding is the special day you stand up in front of your closest friends and family and tell the world that this is the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. It’s pretty awesome!
After the wedding comes the business of being married – and marriage is a choice we make every day.
Whether you meet for the first time at the altar like of the recent reality show, Married at First Sight, you have known each other since Kinder or met at Roulette in Las Vegas; you make a choice to stay or go.
Most days, weeks and years – you don’t have to make this choice consciously. You love your partner, most of us are lucky to also be ‘in love’ with our partner and you build a life together. Some days it is a decision you make; to work through the problems, to communicate and to sacrifice for each other.
As a Civil Celebrant l don’t have to ask couples if they are in love. I don’t check their bank statements to see if they are financial fit for married life. I definitely do not enquire about their bedroom antics. Marriage is a choice available to any heterosexual couple whether they have been together 30 days or 80 years and no-one judges their lifestyle choices.
Marriage is a choice. An option that should be available to every person who wants to give this form of commitment a go. Not everyone wants to get married, but if you want to – then no-one should be able to stop you based on the gender of your love.
It is a really exciting time for Marriage Equality in Australia. Most of us, the run-of-the-mill married heterosexuals, have thought it was crazy a law exists that excludes LGBT couples from marrying. Although we believe it should be changed few of us have actually done anything about it. Here is your chance to do something.
Thankfully on Monday a Private Member’s Bill will be read in Parliament which will start the process towards Marriage Equality in Australia.
You can and should support this bill at http://www.itstimeformarriageequality.org.au/
This is not an argument. This is not up for discussion and unless you are a LGBT you don't get to disagree - because THIS is not about YOUR marriage.
This about giving all people the right to make a choice.
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“Relaxed” is the most common word l hear from couples to describe their perfect wedding.
However, not many achieve this quite as well as Lauren and Lyall.
The day chosen for their commitment ceremony turned out to be a sunny 22 degrees and their hopes for a beach wedding came to fruition. Lauren had bought a beautiful dress of the rack, Lyall was wearing his new ‘work’ suit and they travelled with their six guests to the location less than 5km from their home.
I had introduced Lauren to a local photographer, Erin and Friends, who was able to capture stunning photos of their day.
Everyone was calm and Lauren was the most stress-free bride l have seen in a long time.
The ceremony was personal and romantic, exactly what they had wanted and perfectly suited to them as a couple.
After the ceremony Lauren and Lyall popped a bottle of Champagne (plus a bottle of non-alcoholic bubbles for the pregnant bride) and toasted their new union with the six most important people in their lives.
This toast and the conversation that followed were the absolute highlights of the wedding for me. So often l see couples bombarded with hundreds of guests congratulating them and then they rush off leaving their own party for hours to capture photos of their day. Lauren and Lyall were able to stay and just enjoy the moment.
Days later l caught up with them again to officially make them husband and wife. What could be more relaxed than signing your marriage certificate at your dining room table.
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It was important for Te-Ata and Jay to be married by the water so this local couple chose the gorgeous Point Cook Homestead as the location for their ceremony.
With views back across the bay to the city, they exchanged vows in front
of their close friends and family.
Awesome photos by Tracie at TLC Photography - check out her facebook page here
All this romance over the weekend led me to sit down and check out my wedding photos.
Do you know what l love about my wedding photos? They are of my husband, my friends, my family and me. There are no photos of the florist, though she did a great job. There are no photos of the venue manager; because he was a grumpy old bloke and there are none framed on my wall of my minister despite being a good friend; it was not his wedding.
Looking at the photos reminds me of the day and the special people who are still an important part of our lives.
I always tell couples who are getting married that l want to be as memorable as the table decorations at their wedding reception. As in, l should not be the ‘thing’ they or others remember about the ceremony. Instead they should remember that they laughed and cried, that the you laughed and cried and that it was a perfect reflection of you.
Because, you know what? I have had ‘my day’. I have my own wedding photos;
l don’t need to be the centre of yours!
The colourful bathing boxes on Aspendale Beach, Melbourne Victoria were the backdrop for
Lynda and Adam’s beach wedding.
The relaxed couple celebrated their nuptials in front of a small gathering of friends and family. Flanked by their four sons, three flower girls and two best friends, Lynda and Adam laughed and joked throughout the morning.
It was a very hot day which took its toll on their 18 month old twins who weren’t really sure what all the fuss was about. In fact, as Adam was placing the ring on Lynda’s finger and declaring “let this ring be a symbol of the lifelong bond between us” he looked down at his sons clinging to his legs and added “l’m not sure we need the ring for that”.
It was that down-to-earth nature that endeared me to Adam and Lynda from the very first meeting
and made their wedding day such a personal occasion.
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Alicia and Aaron met on the way to a Tupperware party and like the company motto goes, it was "For Life".
Their wedding was held at the in Taylors Lakes and the ceremony near the rotunda on site.
It was a simple and relaxed ceremony made special by the inclusion of their children and dedication to their parents.
A bonus of this wedding was getting to work with the very professional Brenton Spiteri from
Extreme Exposure Photography. As you can see, his work is first class.
It was so great getting to know Alicia and Aaron and being part of their special day.
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My gorgeous couple from the weekend made the local paper with their unique wedding. Check out the article here:
Jo and James were married on the stunning greens of The Sands Torquay surrounded by family and friends.
My fondest memory of preparing for this wedding was that James wanted to write the ceremony himself. In true "School Teacher" style he sat down and wrote the words they wanted, picked the readings and personalised their vows. This is the only time l have ever had a groom make such a huge effort and l was honoured to read their ceremony.
On the day, you couldn't go past the amazing view and vivid blue sky. Another memorable moment was Jo's young neice, Mani, reciting the poem:
"There is no greater happiness than that of sharing life
With all its joy and all its cares, as a loving man and wife
For love gives life new meaning and has a special way
of growing stronger and deeper with each passing day.
Yes, life is so much happier and brighter when you're sharing
the very special joys that come with loving, giving and caring."
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Growing up on a farm, l never imagined one day l would be performing a wedding in a shearing shed not so far away.
Yet that was the location chosen for Carmen and Glen’s Country Farm wedding and... it was gorgeous!
Sylvania Park is a working Mohair Goat property, 9 Kilometres from Horsham in Western Victoria. It is a great venue if you are looking to have accommodation, ceremony and reception all in a private location. Carmen and Glen stayed overnight in the homestead with family, making for a relaxed weekend.
The ceremony it’s self was held in the shearing shed which was tastefully decorated and provided for beautiful rusty photos. Jac, from Jumpin’ Jac Flash in Horsham captured the day and did an amazing job.
Highlights of the ceremony were the couple’s youngest son being wheeled in by the junior bridesmaid in a wooden trolley and the sand ceremony which represented that Carmen and Glen were now one is marriage.
My favourite words in the ceremony were “they have no illusions of being wealthy just to have enough time to enjoy life and maybe a full night’s sleep”. This sentiment was echoed by many parents in the room, including me!
If you are looking for a Young and Fun Celebrant to travel to your Country Farm Wedding,