I always tell couples who are getting married that l want to be as memorable as the table decorations at their wedding reception. As in, l should not be the ‘thing’ they or others remember about the ceremony. Instead they should remember that they laughed and cried, that the you laughed and cried and that it was a perfect reflection of you.
I like to get to know my couples and often feel as much a friend as the Celebrant on the day. Never the less, l make sure l stay out of the middle of all of their photos. I prefer to not read aloud their vows before they do. I am not in the background as they kiss. I am not the first to congratulate them or request a selfie before their other guests. I don’t make a big deal as l leave. I am honoured to be a part of their day and that they chose me to help them celebrate but l know my place and have no disillusions whose day it is.
l don’t need to be the centre of yours!